I was debating about which Enneagram personality type fits Emily the best. However I kept coming back to Type 2: The Helper.
The reason I kept going back to this particular personality type for Emily has to do with the hidden fears and desires of this type more than anything else. Type 2’s fear the feeling of being unwanted, rejected, neglected, and tend to have low self-esteem. They desire above all else to be loved.
Emily after feeling second best to her sister all her life has this feeling that she is invisible or nothing special. She has a hard time letting herself shine and is quietly waiting for love. Particularly love with Naomi to bloom. Emily starts to communicate her independence and develop her own self-worth as her relationship with Naomi progresses.
The thing is that Type 2’s need validation from others in order to feel self-assured. When they feel they are being neglected or as if their fears are true. The can become quietly resentful and may even lash out. Examples of this would be her behavior towards Naomi in Series 4 and also her actions with her mother.
They can also have enormous expectations about life and love. When those expectations aren’t met the reaction tends to be more intense than most others due to the mixed idealism of this type. Which to me is quite Emily.
This type is also quite kind and generous yet at the same time quite selfish. Meaning they do kind things in order to get validation, acknowledgment, and to feel needed by others. However when their emotional needs are not met their dark sides come in at full force. This is Emily she is a kind and quite generous person at times; however, when her needs are not being met or she has reached her limit she can be quite self-centered and throw a monumental tantrum or sulking episode.